Let me first start this blog by saying this has nothing to do with my husband or my marriage because my man is the best hugger in the world! (Those hugs are only for me ladies). People tend to want to think that every comment pertains to my marriage (people get over yourselves). It is more about really seeing those around you that you take for granted each and every day. Sometimes we selfish human being can get so caught up in US that we fail to see those who are rooting for us can have a bad day!
Have you ever been so busy with life, concerned about what ails you, talking to yourself or God about how lonely you feel and how no one appreciates you?
Sometimes life leaves you tired and rejected by those you help the most. That co-worker who did not know how to do that project that you assisted them with and then they turn right around and take all the credit for it. That best friend that you confided in and now they have left you. For us Pastor, its church folks that you walk with, pray for, and minister to who don’t appreciate or value who you are. For that business owner, it the employees that you sacrifice for who feel they are entitled. It’s your bank account that you can’t seem to understand where all the money that you worked so hard for disappeared to!
It is at those moments that you feel the most vulnerable and the loneliest. It in those moments that all you need is a hug!
Have you ever met someone who hates to be touched or hugged? I can assure you that person is missing out in some areas in their life when it comes to relationships and intimacy. That person does not really understand that a hug can work wonders in their life. That person is lonely and does not even recognize it.
Webster defines a hug as an act of holding someone tightly in one's arms, typically to express affection.
Hugs builds trust and a sense of safety. ... Hugs can instantly boost oxytocin levels, which heal feelings of loneliness, isolation, and anger. Holding a hug for an extended time lifts one's serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating happiness.
Children love to give hugs without limits or boundaries. They want to feel needed and loved. Whenever I’m tired I always reach out for a hug from my grandkids because it brings me great comfort and a sense of peace.
Are you feeling sad today? May I suggest that maybe you need a hug!
Here are several reasons why you need to learn to hug each other more often:
Hugging provides healing. Research shows that hugging is extremely effective at healing sickness, disease, loneliness, depression, anxiety and stress.
Hugs strengthen the immune system.
Hugging boosts self-esteem.
Hugs release tension in the body. Hugs can take away pain; they soothe aches by increasing circulation into the soft tissues.
Hugs teach us how to give and receive. There is equal value in receiving and being receptive to warmth, as to giving and sharing. Hugs educate us how love flows both ways.
So to the person who saw ME this morning…thanks for the hug!!!